sounds about right for all this weeks scandals

i try not to be too political,  but really i bust my butt to teach my children and my Sailors how to be personally accountable and then our government makes promises, overextends the peoples treasury, and has yet to take personal responsibility for any missteps


B. 13 billion unaccounted for in bailout funds

C. Universal healthcare and its failure to launch or truly be the affordable option as promised

D. multiple personal civil liberty witch hunts “for the safety of the people”

E. The use of diminishing entitlement programs as bait to ensure the uninformed blindly cast their vote.

Fix it now, stand in front of Wal-mart (Target doesn’t like it when you stand in front of them) have people sign the petition, and recall your Senators and Congressman, Colorado did it over the loss of one Company, 1 civil right infringement, and the loss of 1750 jobs, what did the shut down cost us as a people?


Bullying, a parental opportunity for involvement

if you’ve read my post, you know Monkeyhead and Bubba are my world.  Also hopefully you checked out the links to We as parents have GOT to empower our children to believe in themselves and their strengths. Engage, Empower, and involve yourselves in their lives.

Photo: Not really that funny, but Its pretty true

Letting Go

So about three years ago I lost a great friend. He was 3-4 years younger than me and, came back from a PT run with his Marines, and died of a heart attack. His Facebook page is memorialized, so every now and then I go and visit him say hi, tell him a joke, or remind him of a memory, but just because honestly I don’t know how to let go. I’ve lost others in the past, some permanent, some by choice, and I’ve caused loss, some permanent by choice. But for some reason it doesn’t seem real when I think of him being gone.

He and I met in our first unit 20 years ago, both non-rates of any value but we worked hard, played hard, and drank hard together, then we both transferred, him overseas, and me back to the Navy, 3 years later we ran into each other on board the chicken of the sea. We picked up where we left off; older, wiser, him still single, and me on the fast track to a divorce. We had an incredible journey.  We Drank a Bar out of its native beer, stopped a revolution, paid a HUGE bar tab by playing spades, rescued the USS Cole and celebrated my 30th birthday on a tropical beach that a few years later would be decimated by one of the worst tsunamis the world has ever known.

We took my “little” brother all over Hawaii, and got in trouble for walking on the reef. We raced an entire Indianapolis 500 on an x-box, oh and for the record, it takes as long on the game as it does in real life. We kept in touch through email and a couple of times in person, I had gotten hurt on our deployment so I decided to take my bell bottoms and go home. He found the love of his life and they went on to see the world together, and have what, knowing him, had to have been phenomenal adventures.

As I missed him the other day, I checked out his page and found that his wife has moved on and has had a beautiful Baby girl, though not remarried she looks happy. It struck me, “he just died, why so soon?” the fact was it was more than three years, and that one thing in my life had slowed to such a trickle of existence it didn’t seem possible.

Thinking of mine and legends relationship, I don’t think I could let go, even after three years, I just don’t know that that part of me lets go of those that mean the most to me.  My grandparents all died within 9 months of each other, and no more than 5 months between the couples, they couldn’t let go either.

I don’t know how to accept a loss I’m not willing to lose, and am envious of those who can move forward after one, If Legend were to leave me through time or need, I know that would be the start of my being alone forever, because I’m no good at letting go.

I can’t say it any better

If you aren’t preaching this message to your children, co-workers and self, you are selling yourself and your possibilities short, don’t teach your children to be ordinary, let them know they are winners, and winners never quit, or place blame, they shoulder up and keep moving forward.


…train them right


education (Photo credit: Sean MacEntee)

Bubba (18 and a mirror of me) called last night said she was looking at guns and wanted to start shooting more, if you remember my post “hold them tight…” I believe I advocated for responsible parenting, uplifting your children and teaching them life skills while being actively and positively engaged, as a parent not friend, every day. This video goes along with that. Board room or war room, equip your children with the skills, training and tools to be successful regardless of the environment.  An educated mind with a dream can be a part of the space program, a teacher or just a damn good person. If a child fails the parents are the failure, teach your children to be responsible, love your children enough to give the hard answers, lead your children to adulthood prepared for success.

Katelyn Francis is 13

You can talk about it or be about it, not both.

September 11, 2001 attacks in New York City: V...

September 11, 2001 attacks in New York City: View of the World Trade Center and the Statue of Liberty. (Image: US National Park Service ) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Too many people forget that my friends are fighting and dying on a daily basis; Regardless of anyone else’s definition of just cause, they are there because they took an oath, signed a piece of paper and said I will fight for our rights, for our values and for the 5144 dead as a result of the September 11th attacks. Since the dawn of time mankind has wanted something from someone else either through barter or theft they have gotten it. Also since the dawn of time mankind has protected himself, his family and property, whether with rocks, hands, sticks or guns. Tyranny rarely goes unopposed for to long. Our founding fathers knew that, our current administrators have forgotten that and the American people (hopefully) are awakening to the fact that they are in charge of that.

Stand for yourselves and your neighbors, if not no one will be left to stand for you.

my only post about the shut down, ever.

140th US Flag Day poster. 1777-1917. The birth...

140th US Flag Day poster. 1777-1917. The birthday of the stars and stripes, June 14th, 1917. ‘Tis the Star Spangled Banner, oh, long may it wave, o’er the land of the free and the home of the brave!” Library of Congress description: “Poster showing a man raising the American flag, with a minuteman cheering and an eagle flying above.” (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

These dogs understand what a friend, leader and support system looks like. Why in the hell can the two houses not understand their partisan bull&^*(& is destroying the country do I have an opinion on Ocare? Yes I do. ! It’s crap, anytime in our “Land of the Free and the home of the brave” that the government begins to mandate an expenditure outside of your already illegal taxes, it is wrong. I don’t care if you have insurance or a pre-existing condition, the insurance industry is the problem, not the government’s “failure” to provide for those who won’t provide for themselves something they didn’t realize they needed until someone told them it was better than the free care they already received. By free of course I mean, the care I pay for through ridiculous prices in co-pays and prescription costs, and annual premiums.

I believe you only need about 5 friends and 25 associates; and all of mine would come into traffic to help me, because it’s the right thing to do, not because the crowd sourced opinion said to. My friends care about me, my family, our country and our constitution, in spite of the jackassery on capital hill, than the cronies of Capital Hill do. All that said if you too are mad about the shut down driven by the boner and hairy measuring show;  WE voted for them! Every state in the union has the right to pull a Colorado and recall every single last Senator and Congressman/woman in Washington. If we the American people don’t stand up and guide our government, this is where our government will guide us.

I love my dogs…

Talk to your kids, there is a reason you pay for DVR….

If your children aren’t your priority, maybe the smart phone you had to have for work, the Sunday ticket you “earned” for having a job, and the car to go along with your job title, aren’t the only things in your life that should probably be re-evaluated.

Talk to your kids about bullying, teach them self-respect and respect for fellow-man, and as a society let’s make this “Jawbreaker” society on steroids culture disappear.–j

what happens when we find we are fallible

So many times in our lives we feel as if we aren’t good enough, and that is fine. I believe it pushes us to try harder, to dig deeper, to fight longer and set bigger goals. Unfortunately what we get hung on is, the fact they we didn’t reach those goals. Setting the goal is easy, like getting all A’s on our next report card, but then where is the plan to earn those A’s? The world could care less about your plans, God and Buddha, didn’t ask before they set your world in motion, they put you here to realize a few things. At this moment, right now you are where you are supposed to be, the task you completed today and the tasks you didn’t complete today were exactly done the way they were supposed to. The only way it could have been better was if someone else did them perfectly to your specifications, or that you built a solid enough plan, and followed to get everything done that this day had deemed important.


SeatedBuddhaGandhara2ndCentury (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I watched Legend find she wasn’t perfect for the first time ever in her life last week. I’m sure it was the first time because I recognized the lost look in her eyes, the fact that at that moment she seemed shorter than her normal “can’t meet the clown’s arm” height, and the sound of despair coming haltingly from her lips. I love her, how do you help someone when they found out they are normal? that as smart as we strive to be, the books we read, the moral compass we adjust to our perfection throughout our lives, sometimes regardless of these efforts we are still imperfect humans despite our best efforts.

Years of experience in any job, where you have the chance to become the old man, makes you appear to others as if you’ve got it all together. The truth is you have simply survived long enough to keep a mental catalog of all of your life and job “not-to-do” list. So I may look like I’m a mind reader, the truth is, 20 years ago I tried the same dumb crap, with the same foreseeable results and am simply still around to save others from themselves. This fact of my life gives me a pleasurable pause and hope. The hope is that in 20 more years of marriage, maybe I’ll have the right answers, other than “yes dear” the hope that maybe I won’t break my children and I will be a good dad, the hope that as this chapter of my life grows closer to ending, graduation is looming closer in the future, maybe there is hope for all of us.

Today I went for a bike ride, just a touch over 20 miles, the weather was awesome, 70 degrees, a little breeze little traffic (rural Tennessee isn’t to bicycle friendly) and I just rode. As I rode past some stables today I saw very few people out and about; One in particular caught my eye. A woman about my age, close to my height and weight jogging, there was no joy, just determination, as I rode up to her, I told her ” You are AWESOME!! Keep it up!” that true joy that came across her face was worth the pain I feel sitting here.

I have an idea, it has nothing to do with the shut down, the war, crappy school lunch programs, or gas prices, but something I now will work. Lets put in our time, work hard, lift others up like Haley Joel did in Pay it forward, and see if we can’t make our world a better place from the inside out, just like I know I am trying every day and I hope you are too.

God the Father 04