The dirty glass

SO tonight while I was making cheesecakes for work tomorrow, and grilling salmon i let my phone pick the music, and The Dropkick Murphys came on. This made me think back to about 4 years ago when Legend was driving me back home after my return from a wonderful work vacation…This song came on and Monkeyhead, who was 6 at the time, started singing along, perfectly. what a proud daddy moment! Listen not for nothing, but if you knew us and how we grow our future leader of the revolution/prisoner with no name, her singing just fits our family. We live hard (we being me), laugh hard, play hard, hate hard, and we love harder.

My wife Being Irish and me being redneck the cultural family beliefs are very similar, all good things that rednecks love, country music, whiskey and bar fights are all because Irish gave them to us, according to Legend. Really, per her family description, the Irish are like windex for the world’s problems. Its pretty cool when your 9-year-old tells you it’s not fair that you get to see the dropkicks, as we call them, and she has to go to bed. We aren’t anyones but our own measure of normal, but it works for us..hard.

The Early Years (Dropkick Murphys album)

The Early Years (Dropkick Murphys album) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)


It doesn’t have to be cold.

Since I am stationed 8 hours from home, I went to the movies last night, and saw Bad Grandpa, not the typical Johnny Knoxville shtick, but then you realize the kid is doing improve, its pretty good. That said, NOT FOR CHILDREN!!! Bubba is 18 she can do what she wants, but MonkeyHead is 10 and there is no way I or Legend would let her see this movie. As I left i was truly disappointing in my heart that parents chose this film as a bonding moment with there 6,7,8 and 10-year-old daughters..way to stay classy ‘Murica.

Every now and then we see that uplifting display of humanity that gives us hope, my post yesterday, gave me hope, the redneck justification system crushed my belief a little, then supposedly the Russian people brought it back again with the video below.

So here is your charge and on this Veterans day weekend, and it should be easy. Go thank someone for breathing, go help someone across the street, take a bowl of chili to the old man who lives on the corner, get out of your bubbles and teach your children, neighbors, and most importantly self, that good does exist in our world.

Veterans Day | Field of poppies

Veterans Day | Field of poppies (Photo credit: *Arielle*)

empowerment in the age of complacency

English: Royce Gracie

English: Royce Gracie (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Welcome back, if you have never read me before, let me fill you in a little bit. i am a 23 year veteran of the military, with multiple deployments where bad people prove their displeasure in Americans by shooting at them. I am married to Legend, my rock and we have MonkeyHead and Bubba, plus 4 dogs. Those girls are the light of my life and both are totally different people. Bubba is loud, outspoken, and has her daddy’s calm temper and quiet voice and personality. (<-sarcasm) MonkeyHead is introspective and a million times smarter than I am, she doesn’t believe in the victimization of woman, or the need to use sexual images to sell music. She has read all the Harry Potter books, except the last one, and the best way to punish her is to not let her read at night. She is also only ten, having standards, morals, and being an individual at the peak developmental phase for mean girls is not an easy road. Daddy’s answer is to choke them out, Legend does not agree, what we agree in is empowering our children to stand up for themselves and others, speak their mind and that the most important choices we make are the ones we make when no one is watching.

The Gracie family has been around for years since before UFC, Pride, or even Ken Shamrock. Confidence is key in life, if you don’t know how to instill that trait in your children, that is ok, find someone to help you. You ask Legend, I don’t know everything and am fast learning i can’t do it all my way, to many cracks in my foundation at an early age, and the mortar only covered them up, not filled them in. Don’t rest on the complacency a 60 inch tv can bring you, engage with your children, love them empower them, and find help somewhere besides Dr. Spock, he was wrong and our children today are paying that price.

when the adults fail to teach, the children will teach themselves

Why do we still have mall shootings, homeless families, bankrupt cities, uneven foreign trade policy, and trillions of dollars of debt?

Because a group of individuals forgot that they are not more powerful than those they represent, in fact they forget who they represent and make decisions from their 500 foot view instead of going home and investigating what the 10000 foot view would do to their constitutes.  When we stop teaching our children accountability, by refusing to hold our elected leaders accountable, there is no wonder that 52% of Americans expect some form of government subsidy to provide for their needs, while teaching their children they are owed the same subsidy; when they should (in my humble opinion) teach their children, they were born in the most opportunity driven country in the world, look at the Detroit Bus Company, and tell me this isn’t the country of dreams? where a 225 year old average kid, can see a need, fill it, and make a difference. We are owed nothing but air, everything you have or become is up to you, some outliers do exist but change your stars William, change your stars.

Bullying, a parental opportunity for involvement

if you’ve read my post, you know Monkeyhead and Bubba are my world.  Also hopefully you checked out the links to We as parents have GOT to empower our children to believe in themselves and their strengths. Engage, Empower, and involve yourselves in their lives.

Photo: Not really that funny, but Its pretty true

I can’t say it any better

If you aren’t preaching this message to your children, co-workers and self, you are selling yourself and your possibilities short, don’t teach your children to be ordinary, let them know they are winners, and winners never quit, or place blame, they shoulder up and keep moving forward.


…train them right


education (Photo credit: Sean MacEntee)

Bubba (18 and a mirror of me) called last night said she was looking at guns and wanted to start shooting more, if you remember my post “hold them tight…” I believe I advocated for responsible parenting, uplifting your children and teaching them life skills while being actively and positively engaged, as a parent not friend, every day. This video goes along with that. Board room or war room, equip your children with the skills, training and tools to be successful regardless of the environment.  An educated mind with a dream can be a part of the space program, a teacher or just a damn good person. If a child fails the parents are the failure, teach your children to be responsible, love your children enough to give the hard answers, lead your children to adulthood prepared for success.

Katelyn Francis is 13