when the adults fail to teach, the children will teach themselves

Why do we still have mall shootings, homeless families, bankrupt cities, uneven foreign trade policy, and trillions of dollars of debt?

Because a group of individuals forgot that they are not more powerful than those they represent, in fact they forget who they represent and make decisions from their 500 foot view instead of going home and investigating what the 10000 foot view would do to their constitutes.  When we stop teaching our children accountability, by refusing to hold our elected leaders accountable, there is no wonder that 52% of Americans expect some form of government subsidy to provide for their needs, while teaching their children they are owed the same subsidy; when they should (in my humble opinion) teach their children, they were born in the most opportunity driven country in the world, look at the Detroit Bus Company, and tell me this isn’t the country of dreams? where a 225 year old average kid, can see a need, fill it, and make a difference. We are owed nothing but air, everything you have or become is up to you, some outliers do exist but change your stars William, change your stars.

Bullying, a parental opportunity for involvement

if you’ve read my post, you know Monkeyhead and Bubba are my world.  Also hopefully you checked out the links to www.thebullyproject.com We as parents have GOT to empower our children to believe in themselves and their strengths. Engage, Empower, and involve yourselves in their lives.

Photo: Not really that funny, but Its pretty true

I can’t say it any better

If you aren’t preaching this message to your children, co-workers and self, you are selling yourself and your possibilities short, don’t teach your children to be ordinary, let them know they are winners, and winners never quit, or place blame, they shoulder up and keep moving forward.

 

…train them right

education

education (Photo credit: Sean MacEntee)

Bubba (18 and a mirror of me) called last night said she was looking at guns and wanted to start shooting more, if you remember my post “hold them tight…” I believe I advocated for responsible parenting, uplifting your children and teaching them life skills while being actively and positively engaged, as a parent not friend, every day. This video goes along with that. Board room or war room, equip your children with the skills, training and tools to be successful regardless of the environment.  An educated mind with a dream can be a part of the space program, a teacher or just a damn good person. If a child fails the parents are the failure, teach your children to be responsible, love your children enough to give the hard answers, lead your children to adulthood prepared for success.

Katelyn Francis is 13

Talk to your kids, there is a reason you pay for DVR….

If your children aren’t your priority, maybe the smart phone you had to have for work, the Sunday ticket you “earned” for having a job, and the car to go along with your job title, aren’t the only things in your life that should probably be re-evaluated.

Talk to your kids about bullying, teach them self-respect and respect for fellow-man, and as a society let’s make this “Jawbreaker” society on steroids culture disappear.–j

Black and white.

I’m just ranting on for a bit to line this out bear with me. But if your child wants to do something you say yes or no, and if questioned answer, not because I told you so or because I’m the mommy, but this is how we teach our children the difference between white and wrong. “Don’t eat that, you’ll get fat” as you stuff your third krispy kreme down your suck hole, is probably not teaching them anything other than your superiority through poor moral decisions or food choice, “because I’m the mommy” is only teaching your children to lie. Do parents have guilty pleasures, sure? but flaunting those parental exceptions causes resentment, disrespect, and sneaking behavior. If you don’t want them to do it, let them be honest about it. “Would you like to eat cake?” ” no, thank you i would not like to eat cake” is better and easier swallowed than “would you like to eat cake?” “i don’t feel good, i need to go home”

Why bother? just be upfront, teach your children to be up front. It’s hard for you and them early on because most other parents are concerned  morevwith perception and acceptance than with moral fiber and the ability to read. (Monkey head had all but the last Harry Potter book read before 3rd grade, but her friends saw all the movies, that’s pretty much the same thing right?”

I also know how hard it is to be honest and still be “wrong”. When legend and I started dating I had been seeing another woman, we’ll call her “psycho” for short, anyway because we lived more than 3 hours apart, I worked full-time and went to school full-time, there was a lot of phone tag. Once I finally was able to get ahold of her, Legend was at my apartment, I told psycho I had met someone else and that I wished to discontinue or “relationship” (adult “relations” and dinner 3 times isn’t really a relationship, is it?) in order to see how Legend and I would work out. The first thing out of her mouth was, I was a liar, and I was making her (Legend) up, I told her I had far better things to do with my life than lie to her. I then proceeded to get a pretty good earful for being a liar and other colorful adjectives, to which all I could say was “look, I’m trying to be honest with you, if you don’t want to take that, that’s  fine, but if you can’t handle my honesty that is on you, but she’s (legend) right here if you want to talk to her. that ended and I still feel that if I’m honest and outright, and respect you or anyone enough to tell you the truth, your reaction is your problem, not mine.

Listen I get the need for omission; ” is it bad?”, “no, no its ok we’ll be ok”. Beats the hell out of “HFS! Godzilla has a Uzi flamethrower and is coming through our front door” sometimes that little white lie is necessary. Do you crush your child’s belief of Santa Clause at three because they don’t clean their room? Do you continue on the tradition of Santa until they are 13-14 to share a tradition you hope to pass to your grandchildren? But where is the tolerance level set, now when they are young and are developing into the human they will be in the future, or later via a counselor in the youth home?

I don’t know it all, but I know what I learned and how I’ve had to re-learn better more productive ways to positively influence my children and life in a disciplined and productive manner that won’t make my kids into 5 o’clock news stories, I just believe the white lie will come eventually, why install it to early?

Hey!!! get back in your glass houses!!!

If you know me, you know I love me some crossfit, I’m not super good, or built like Rich Froning, but I love helping people get started and making my old fat butt complete the reps, rounds and movements.

We all have two choices in the gym; move weight, or move your mouth. I’ve lost 15 lbs, and my staff more than that, if you can do it, and you want to do it, DO IT!!

 Lee-Ann is a role model and a sledge hammer to every excuse your fat office mate has about why  they can’t go to the gym, or for a walk, or put down that 5th donut….

Should Pregnant Women Be Weightlifting?

By  | Healthy Living – 6 hours ago

Facebook/Lee-Ann EllisonExercise is essential for a healthy pregnancy, but one photo of a pregnant woman weightlifting has ignited a fiery debate on how much pregnant women should sweat. 

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Lea-Ann Ellison, 35, a stay-at-home mom in Los Angeles, is eight months pregnant with her third child and attends regular CrossFit classes at her local gym. Last week, Ellison emailed the company touting her success on the workout and included a photo of herself lifting weights. A few days later, the company posted the photo on its Facebook page, triggering an outcry on social media. Ellison received thousands of comments — many of which were negative — on CrossFit’s and her own Facebook pages, through several media outlets, and in email.

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“This is why CrossFit is horrible. No one knows what they’re doing. This is a good way to lose your baby,” wrote Facebook user Evan Kennedy, a physical therapist. Andrea Hatfield wrote, “I do not find this impressive at all. No one would post a picture of themselves drinking a beer while eight months pregnant. Risky behavior while pregnant is no laughing matter.” And Amanda Strippel wrote, “Sorry lady, not safe. Baby first, sanity second.”

However, Ellison had her share of supporters. “I’m six months pregnant with triplets and am still Crossfitting as much as I can,” wrote Carol Metzger Bolliger. And Melissa McCarty wrote, “I’ve had four kids and pregnancy isn’t a handicap. It isn’t an excuse to ‘slow down’. You know your limits and obviously she’s doing exactly what her body allows. Great job mama!”

Lea-Ann/FacebookThe benefits of exercise during pregnancy are long proven: increased blood flow and energy, sounder sleep, and the release of endorphins (mood-boosting hormones). And one recent study published in the British Journal of Sports Medicine found that exercise reduces the risk of having a baby with a high birth weight and of having a cesarean section. However, many doctors point to pregnancy exertion as the cause of cervical problems and preterm labor, and public opinion is divided on whether women who continue to hit the gym during pregnancy are selfishly harming their unborn babies.

“I was really shocked by the reaction to my photos since I’ve always exercised during my two previous pregnancies and doctors have assured me that my routine is safe for both myself and my child,” Ellison tells Yahoo Shine. “However, the minute thephoto was posted online, I received an onslaught of comments from men and women telling me that pregnancy is no time to be tough and that I’m vain and selfish. It’s surprising that something I’ve always done — and consider normal — is shocking to so many people.”

Ellison’s routine of choice is CrossFit — an hourlong high-intensity exercise program that focuses on core strengthening and conditioning. It incorporates Olympic weight training, aerobic exercise, and gymnastics, using barbells, dumbbells, tire flipping, kettle bells and medicine balls. CrossFit is controversial — according to a story published in the Guardian, in addition to the already-strenuous training, the competition between participants (classes are small and intimate) lead many to overexert and collapse on the floor from exhaustion.

Despite the photo of Ellison that’s caused so much uproar, she says she doesn’t lift heavy weights. “I did lift weights for my maternity photo shoot but only 35 pounds,” she says. “The most I’ve lifted while pregnant is 65.” An avid exerciser, Ellison bought her first gym membership when she was only 16 years old. “I was really skinny and wanted some curves, so I started running and lifting at the gym,” she says. Soon, Ellison’s love of fitness snowballed and she began mountain biking, trail running, weight lifting and entering amateur fitness competitions. Two years ago, she discoveredCrossFit and never looked back.

Ellison begins each day by cooking breakfast for her son, 8, and daughter, 12. Once the kids are off to school, she eats half a cup of oatmeal with coconut oil and cinnamon, followed by a three-egg omelet with avocado and black beans and a protein shake, before heading off to CrossFit class.  Lunch usually consists of a grilled-steak salad or chicken with pasta, and dinner is another lean protein with vegetables and rice. She satisfies her rare sugar cravings with small amounts of dark chocolate.

“I used to take CrossFit classes five days a week, but lately, I’ve scaled back to three times,” says Ellison, who has gained a healthy 23 pounds of pregnancy weight. “What bothers me most about all this backlash is that there are so many pregnant women who eat poorly and don’t exercise at all during their pregnancies. There is an obesity epidemic in this country. What about that?”

According to Steve Goldstein, M.D., professor of urology and gynecology at New York University (he is not Ellison’s doctor), she seems to be on the right track as long as a medical professional is monitoring her routine. “If she’s resting when she’s tired, in general, I don’t see the harm,” Goldstein tells Yahoo Shine.

“However, the body goes through so many physiological changes during pregnancy which can alter balance and center of gravity, so it’s important to pay attention to your body,” he says. “Also, it’s not wise for women to take up an unfamiliar exercise routine. Pregnancy is a brand-new sport.”

an oldie but a goody…

Enjoy, and as always remember how we got here–j

p.s. and a little something for the kids. v

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LEARN SOMETHING, it could never hurt.

what it takes to learn

We as Americans and parents get wrapped about competing with the Joneses, read this and say you don’t that’s ok, we lie to ourselves allot as parents too.

my kid is going to be an Astronaut, a rapper or a CEO….you get the point, place your unrealistic expectation for your child here__________________________.

The truth is this, college isn’t for everyone, we all aren’t smart enough to go from sweeping the floors to Harvard wiz kid.

My family immigrated from Germany more than 150 years ago to build houses, to this day construction and carpentry are still the family business.

Show your children you love them, help them find that one thing they love and are good at. That which they do for love, not necessity or show a natural aptitude for.

Don’t force them to school because that decision was made for you, and now your dream life is only visible in the 5 hours  you sleep a night. Lead them to THEIR path.

coach them, lead them, love them and  most importantly believe in them.