Talk to your kids, there is a reason you pay for DVR….

If your children aren’t your priority, maybe the smart phone you had to have for work, the Sunday ticket you “earned” for having a job, and the car to go along with your job title, aren’t the only things in your life that should probably be re-evaluated.

Talk to your kids about bullying, teach them self-respect and respect for fellow-man, and as a society let’s make this “Jawbreaker” society on steroids culture disappear.–j

DeSoto schools receive intruder training

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DESOTO, Kan. — Your child’s school probably has a plan to deal with violent intruders, but one metro district is saying be proactive, instead of just hiding under a desk.

Random acts of violence have led the DeSoto School District to empower teachers, staff and students to take action against an intruder instead of being a sitting duck and hiding in a classroom.

Beginning this school year, the district requires schools to have intruder safety drills every six to eight weeks.

“Traditionally, what was done in school is we lock the doors, turn off the lights, we close the blinds and we move to a safe area within the room where the intruder wouldn’t be able to see us,” Maurice Loridon, school resource officer, said.

But now, Loridon says students in middle and high school are taught to use whatever is sitting in front of them whether…

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Black and white.

I’m just ranting on for a bit to line this out bear with me. But if your child wants to do something you say yes or no, and if questioned answer, not because I told you so or because I’m the mommy, but this is how we teach our children the difference between white and wrong. “Don’t eat that, you’ll get fat” as you stuff your third krispy kreme down your suck hole, is probably not teaching them anything other than your superiority through poor moral decisions or food choice, “because I’m the mommy” is only teaching your children to lie. Do parents have guilty pleasures, sure? but flaunting those parental exceptions causes resentment, disrespect, and sneaking behavior. If you don’t want them to do it, let them be honest about it. “Would you like to eat cake?” ” no, thank you i would not like to eat cake” is better and easier swallowed than “would you like to eat cake?” “i don’t feel good, i need to go home”

Why bother? just be upfront, teach your children to be up front. It’s hard for you and them early on because most other parents are concerned  morevwith perception and acceptance than with moral fiber and the ability to read. (Monkey head had all but the last Harry Potter book read before 3rd grade, but her friends saw all the movies, that’s pretty much the same thing right?”

I also know how hard it is to be honest and still be “wrong”. When legend and I started dating I had been seeing another woman, we’ll call her “psycho” for short, anyway because we lived more than 3 hours apart, I worked full-time and went to school full-time, there was a lot of phone tag. Once I finally was able to get ahold of her, Legend was at my apartment, I told psycho I had met someone else and that I wished to discontinue or “relationship” (adult “relations” and dinner 3 times isn’t really a relationship, is it?) in order to see how Legend and I would work out. The first thing out of her mouth was, I was a liar, and I was making her (Legend) up, I told her I had far better things to do with my life than lie to her. I then proceeded to get a pretty good earful for being a liar and other colorful adjectives, to which all I could say was “look, I’m trying to be honest with you, if you don’t want to take that, that’s  fine, but if you can’t handle my honesty that is on you, but she’s (legend) right here if you want to talk to her. that ended and I still feel that if I’m honest and outright, and respect you or anyone enough to tell you the truth, your reaction is your problem, not mine.

Listen I get the need for omission; ” is it bad?”, “no, no its ok we’ll be ok”. Beats the hell out of “HFS! Godzilla has a Uzi flamethrower and is coming through our front door” sometimes that little white lie is necessary. Do you crush your child’s belief of Santa Clause at three because they don’t clean their room? Do you continue on the tradition of Santa until they are 13-14 to share a tradition you hope to pass to your grandchildren? But where is the tolerance level set, now when they are young and are developing into the human they will be in the future, or later via a counselor in the youth home?

I don’t know it all, but I know what I learned and how I’ve had to re-learn better more productive ways to positively influence my children and life in a disciplined and productive manner that won’t make my kids into 5 o’clock news stories, I just believe the white lie will come eventually, why install it to early?

Hey!!! get back in your glass houses!!!

If you know me, you know I love me some crossfit, I’m not super good, or built like Rich Froning, but I love helping people get started and making my old fat butt complete the reps, rounds and movements.

We all have two choices in the gym; move weight, or move your mouth. I’ve lost 15 lbs, and my staff more than that, if you can do it, and you want to do it, DO IT!!

 Lee-Ann is a role model and a sledge hammer to every excuse your fat office mate has about why  they can’t go to the gym, or for a walk, or put down that 5th donut….

Should Pregnant Women Be Weightlifting?

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Facebook/Lee-Ann EllisonExercise is essential for a healthy pregnancy, but one photo of a pregnant woman weightlifting has ignited a fiery debate on how much pregnant women should sweat. 

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Lea-Ann Ellison, 35, a stay-at-home mom in Los Angeles, is eight months pregnant with her third child and attends regular CrossFit classes at her local gym. Last week, Ellison emailed the company touting her success on the workout and included a photo of herself lifting weights. A few days later, the company posted the photo on its Facebook page, triggering an outcry on social media. Ellison received thousands of comments — many of which were negative — on CrossFit’s and her own Facebook pages, through several media outlets, and in email.

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“This is why CrossFit is horrible. No one knows what they’re doing. This is a good way to lose your baby,” wrote Facebook user Evan Kennedy, a physical therapist. Andrea Hatfield wrote, “I do not find this impressive at all. No one would post a picture of themselves drinking a beer while eight months pregnant. Risky behavior while pregnant is no laughing matter.” And Amanda Strippel wrote, “Sorry lady, not safe. Baby first, sanity second.”

However, Ellison had her share of supporters. “I’m six months pregnant with triplets and am still Crossfitting as much as I can,” wrote Carol Metzger Bolliger. And Melissa McCarty wrote, “I’ve had four kids and pregnancy isn’t a handicap. It isn’t an excuse to ‘slow down’. You know your limits and obviously she’s doing exactly what her body allows. Great job mama!”

Lea-Ann/FacebookThe benefits of exercise during pregnancy are long proven: increased blood flow and energy, sounder sleep, and the release of endorphins (mood-boosting hormones). And one recent study published in the British Journal of Sports Medicine found that exercise reduces the risk of having a baby with a high birth weight and of having a cesarean section. However, many doctors point to pregnancy exertion as the cause of cervical problems and preterm labor, and public opinion is divided on whether women who continue to hit the gym during pregnancy are selfishly harming their unborn babies.

“I was really shocked by the reaction to my photos since I’ve always exercised during my two previous pregnancies and doctors have assured me that my routine is safe for both myself and my child,” Ellison tells Yahoo Shine. “However, the minute thephoto was posted online, I received an onslaught of comments from men and women telling me that pregnancy is no time to be tough and that I’m vain and selfish. It’s surprising that something I’ve always done — and consider normal — is shocking to so many people.”

Ellison’s routine of choice is CrossFit — an hourlong high-intensity exercise program that focuses on core strengthening and conditioning. It incorporates Olympic weight training, aerobic exercise, and gymnastics, using barbells, dumbbells, tire flipping, kettle bells and medicine balls. CrossFit is controversial — according to a story published in the Guardian, in addition to the already-strenuous training, the competition between participants (classes are small and intimate) lead many to overexert and collapse on the floor from exhaustion.

Despite the photo of Ellison that’s caused so much uproar, she says she doesn’t lift heavy weights. “I did lift weights for my maternity photo shoot but only 35 pounds,” she says. “The most I’ve lifted while pregnant is 65.” An avid exerciser, Ellison bought her first gym membership when she was only 16 years old. “I was really skinny and wanted some curves, so I started running and lifting at the gym,” she says. Soon, Ellison’s love of fitness snowballed and she began mountain biking, trail running, weight lifting and entering amateur fitness competitions. Two years ago, she discoveredCrossFit and never looked back.

Ellison begins each day by cooking breakfast for her son, 8, and daughter, 12. Once the kids are off to school, she eats half a cup of oatmeal with coconut oil and cinnamon, followed by a three-egg omelet with avocado and black beans and a protein shake, before heading off to CrossFit class.  Lunch usually consists of a grilled-steak salad or chicken with pasta, and dinner is another lean protein with vegetables and rice. She satisfies her rare sugar cravings with small amounts of dark chocolate.

“I used to take CrossFit classes five days a week, but lately, I’ve scaled back to three times,” says Ellison, who has gained a healthy 23 pounds of pregnancy weight. “What bothers me most about all this backlash is that there are so many pregnant women who eat poorly and don’t exercise at all during their pregnancies. There is an obesity epidemic in this country. What about that?”

According to Steve Goldstein, M.D., professor of urology and gynecology at New York University (he is not Ellison’s doctor), she seems to be on the right track as long as a medical professional is monitoring her routine. “If she’s resting when she’s tired, in general, I don’t see the harm,” Goldstein tells Yahoo Shine.

“However, the body goes through so many physiological changes during pregnancy which can alter balance and center of gravity, so it’s important to pay attention to your body,” he says. “Also, it’s not wise for women to take up an unfamiliar exercise routine. Pregnancy is a brand-new sport.”

an oldie but a goody…

Enjoy, and as always remember how we got here–j

p.s. and a little something for the kids. v

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LEARN SOMETHING, it could never hurt.

what it takes to learn

We as Americans and parents get wrapped about competing with the Joneses, read this and say you don’t that’s ok, we lie to ourselves allot as parents too.

my kid is going to be an Astronaut, a rapper or a CEO….you get the point, place your unrealistic expectation for your child here__________________________.

The truth is this, college isn’t for everyone, we all aren’t smart enough to go from sweeping the floors to Harvard wiz kid.

My family immigrated from Germany more than 150 years ago to build houses, to this day construction and carpentry are still the family business.

Show your children you love them, help them find that one thing they love and are good at. That which they do for love, not necessity or show a natural aptitude for.

Don’t force them to school because that decision was made for you, and now your dream life is only visible in the 5 hours  you sleep a night. Lead them to THEIR path.

coach them, lead them, love them and  most importantly believe in them.

Hold them tight….

Legend called me today crying…Not for anything I’ve done but because she got promoted at work to district health services coordinator, and as a result she had to watch a documentary on bullying. I’ve caused a lot of pain in her life, I’ve been injured, unable to call her from war zones, bought a new(er) truck, and forgot to unload the dishwasher. None of these things come close to the pain i felt coming through the phone after she watched a DOCUMENTARY about bullying and it’s f*&^ed up effects on our children.

Monkeyhead is going into 5th grade this year, and is constantly bullied, not because she’s “ugly”, or “smelly”, or “dumb”, but because she likes school, and is smart, and reads 3 books a week. Because she doesn’t care what your parents drive, or that your clothes aren’t from the coolest  stores, or that your hair is messed up.  She just wants to do well in school, and be liked.  Again I’m from a small town and I was bullied quite  bit. Taped 10 ft off the ground on a phone pole, beat up or attempted to be beaten up several times, stripped and thrown in a creek, and lord knows what else. I might have even bullied some people in my past and if that is true, I’m sorry.

It is because of that past that I urge you parents out there to get involved, teach your children where their worth truly comes from. Be intrusive in their lives, I don’t mean go through their sock drawer or under their bed, but shut off the damn tv and talk to them. Make them talk about their day, read their eyes, and most importantly hold them accountable for all the good and not-so-good they may or may not do, and show them you love them and what respect and self-respect look like through YOUR actions.

Your children start school soon, be there for them and let us all come together as humans and stop this.

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